Tuesday, March 07, 2006

I was 17

Visiting India for the first time in six years... My mother and masi had decided that it would be cheaper to travel by ST bus, from Gandhinagar to Ahmedabad, plus, the bus ride wouldn't be that long...

so we waited in the hot Gujarat sun... Magically the "amdavad vadaj" bus came and stopped right in front of me... I was carrying my three year old cousin, Megha, in my arms. She was my sweet darling, who could do no wrong. I had even made a batik of her baby look, so sweet, so innocent.

As the bus came to a halt, a wave of men slammed into me, as they scrambled to be first on. I was knocked flat onto my back, breathless, with Megha wailing on top of me. She was fine, just scared. I too was fine, just scared... And angry.

somehow we all got on, but there weren't enough open seats so that all of us could sit together. I was looking for a seat elsewhere... A young, handsome man offered me a seat next to him, but having had some experiences with fresh young men, i refused. Instead, I preferred to take a seat next to a fifty-ish Kaka (uncle). He seemed kindly, just a few years older than my dad.

as the bus got underway, i noticed movement on my right side. the Kaka's elbow was occasionally hitting my side. oh well, i thought. the bus had bad shocks, and the Gujarat roads were not yet the marvel of high-tech smoothness that they are now.
Soon, though, the Kaka's elbow seemed to be moving even when the bus was driving smoothly. After a few minutes, (YES. I know, I was OBLIVIOUS) anyway, after a few minutes i noticed the elbow seemed to be making a circular pattern on my side.

It dawned on me that he might be doing this for some sexual pleasure, but I resisted thinking this at first, because i thought, what pleasure can be derived from making circular motions, with your elbow, on the side of a girl.
Nevertheless, when it continued, I realized that this was just not normal.

But I was too young, too scared to say anything to him. After all he was a Kaka, even if not my Kaka.

What did i do? The good thing was i was sitting in the aisle seat. I turned around to look at the back of the bus, where Megha, my mom, masi, and bro and sis were sitting. I shifted over to the very edge of the seat, so that only my right buttock held me to the seat. Elbows-Kaka could not reach so far without contorting his body, so now i was safe.

Now to make this position seem more natural, I leaned back toward Megha and started talking to her, calling all the way down the aisle... We talked like that for a long time... After a while she ventured up to where I was, and we played and hugged and told each other secrets, all the while my right buttock precariously hanging on to the very edge of the seat. Megha was my favorite lil cousin before that, and certainly after, too.
Note: This entry was written as part of Blank Noise's Blog-a-Thon on the topic of eve-teasing. To learn more, click on link and scroll all the way down, to see the list of participants.


s! said...

sometimes you have to do these things.. isn't it a shame though that the most respectable looking people are sometimes the worst of the lot..

Piyush Patel said...

Vadaj is area in Ahmedabad so "amdavad vadaj" bus never goes to Gandhinagar.......
I was searching for "Gujarat" on technorati.com and I found your blog.

I was just looking that how fast earthquake news spread in blogosphere.
Yes... there was an earthquake precisely 96 minutes ago. and there is 2 unique blog entry about earthqake. It seems lots of amadavadi not blogging.

Yasser Rahman said...

Men are absolutly wierd...Glad you got away without much damage, though the little that had been done, still hasnt left your memory

Take Care....

mystic chick said...

An experience like this on your first visit to a place is what gets bad names for cities/countries. Remember the Swiss embassy lady who got raped in Delhi in a car park of a posh area? What do you think Swiss think of Delhi?

Mangs said...

The WEIRDEST things seem to give people pleasure

kaushik said...

yet another eye-opening post!
been reading quite a lot of these as a part of the blogathon!

what you said is so typical of the problems being discussed, 'after all he is a kaka', respect his age....

drastic changes in the society is a must for things to improve....
hope things are better abroad